Voicing needs

Of doms and subs, of master to slaves, of owner and pets and of daddy doms to little girls

The truth is. Every dom, and it doesn’t matter what lifestyle you live in, is looking for a sensitive sub. One that is filled with empathy. One that loves to self reflect at the end of the day. Maybe one that is writing enthusiastically about their dynamic

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But the real truth is. It’s all about deals. Like : The sub is actually an introvert and has either issues to let their partner know what they want or has never learned to communicate their desires. So? The deal between the sub and the dom is most likely this: She obeys and gives her submission to their dom and in return she gets to explore all the dark,rough,passionately no holding back sexual experiences.

Boom. That’s it. That’s the whole deal.

The other truth is. 78% of the people never have passionate sex. Sex where both parties are able to let go. Why? Because one fears to share their fantasies, wants, needs and dreams. Because society reacts with shaming. Like: You can’t do that!

I always thought: Why not?

Example? Doing a video. Why not do a video? It’s not like we’re gonna share it with the whole world? It’s not like we want to make money with it?

Other example? I mentored a woman once And one day she came with a confession to make. I wondered what it would be. She told me that she would love to live with a number of men in a house and be their cum slut. Their rape meat. Anything they want they should force her to do.

My reaction was the same. Why can’t you? If it’s consensual and safe? Why in the fucking world would this woman be judged for her desires? So I helped her and she moved in with several men and has the time of her life.

But to get there? You have to go on a not so easy journey where no one can join you. It’s the journey to your own truest core where you get to the point of complete honesty. And once you realize the real truth? You have to make sure you can share it with your partner or look for someone with the same desires,wants or needs. But still. You have to be sure you’re capeable of sharing your desires.

Speaking isn’t as easy as reading about the lifestyle

this photo is not my own, taken from google images